Vangsness says that she is "as queer as a purple unicorn singing Madonna." She began dating film and television editor Melanie Goldstein in 2006. They were engaged, but separated in 2013. In April 2015, she revealed on smashinginterviews.com that she had entered into a relationship with a new boyfriend and was examining that aspect of her sexuality. In November 2015, it was reported that she was engaged to her boyfriend, actor and writer Keith Hanson.
Either way, you lose.